Family trips usually come with a fair amount of drama. Sharing 30 hours in the back seat with your siblings on the road tends to create some tension, and there can be times when hungry mom and dad just can’t agree on whether they want Italian or Mexican food for dinner. On the whole, vacations can be successful, but family trips always find a way to upset someone. Unfortunately for one family, they recently ended a year-long family drama without even taking the trip.
4 days ago Concerned Father, Reddit user Throwra5354409, went online for some outsiders opinions on whether he was at fault when his planned family vacation quickly went awry. Below you can read the full story, as well as some responses from other readers, and decide how you feel about the situation. Let us know in the comments how you would handle this family drama, and then if you’re interested in something else KristenBellTattoos.com piece showing last minute plans canceled due to family conflict, look no further than Right here.
A father recently asked on the Internet if he was wrong to cancel his family’s vacation.
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Upon learning of this, the father decided to cancel the entire vacation.
The father is now working hard to fix this mess that his wife has created.
I understand that not everyone would be thrilled with the role of stepmother, but that’s what Rose signed up for. It is completely unfair for her to treat Leo, the child, as if he did something wrong just because their personalities do not match. Even if he does not like her, as an adult in this situation, she must be a big person. But as commonplace as stepmothers get into trouble with stepchildren, it’s still relatively common.
On her blog Inclusive stepmomBeth McDonough writes that it’s actually okay to resent adopted children. “When children don’t like us or hesitantly accept us when we appear in the frame, we feel that our entire self is rejected, which makes us feel inferior and like a dagger to our self-esteem,” Beth explains. “Being rejected is like throwing hot oil into a frying pan and it will slosh, crunch and pop right onto your hand. Resentment is how you begin to feel about the oil and that pan after it has burned you too many times.”
She goes on to explain that adoptive parents may view their partner’s children through the lens of “responsibility first and love second,” while parents see their children “first through the lens of love and then responsibility.” She points out that it’s perfectly normal for a foster parent to have difficulty loving their adopted children, but she doesn’t condone inappropriate behavior. “When that happens, aim for kindness and respect first and foremost and let go of the pressure you put on yourself to have certain feelings.”
Rose is allowed not to be friends with Leo, but she must not be allowed to bully him during their family vacation and manipulate his brother into thinking it is his fault. It’s sad to hear that one family vacation can turn into such a big mess, but luckily the boys’ father is working hard to get the situation under control. Let us know in the comments what you think of this whole situation, and if you have experience with a difficult stepdad, we’d love to hear how you handled it.
Readers overwhelmingly sided with the father and his sons, with many warning that his wife was the problem.