I grew up in a very affectionate, supportive and loving family. So for me, it is difficult to understand how one would not want to help a needy relative. Especially if the call for help means that you will spend some precious time with your loved ones.
It was a day for the AITA community on Reddit when one user, u/iri_baker67, a grandmother who has a 29-year-old daughter and 1-year-old grandson, asked for their verdict on his behaviour. Grandma shared how she refused to raise her grandson for free and explained why she wanted to charge her daughter some serious cash for the privilege.
This is a very disappointing post to read, and many redditors couldn’t believe their eyes. Scroll down for Grandma’s full story. When you’re finished reading, let us know in the comments what you think of his actions and logic. Do you agree with most Redditors that she was out of line? Or do you think things are not as black and white as they seem?
bored panda Arrives to chat with British comedian, writer and single mom about babysitting arian sherinWho has a 10 year old daughter. “I personally ask relatives and friends to babysitting first, as I know and trust them already, and only then try to contact a professional midwife if they are unavailable. “He told me what his point of view was. “My daughter Lily has an adoptive grandfather named John, who she loves and feels very safe with, so that’s my first call. He’s so much fun that Lily is almost as happy being with him as she is.” is with me.” Ariane has written a variety of books, including ‘How to live to 100’ and have recently brainstormed a series of funny and funny christmas merch After catching coronavirus with his daughter. Scroll down for the full interview.
A grandmother took to Reddit to explain why she wants her daughter to pay for her babysitter
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She was demanding a large sum of money from her own child for something that most grandparents would be happy to do for free
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I was very interested to hear Arian’s opinion on the link between age and maturity in children. Here’s what he had to say to the bored panda. “I find that age and maturity are often linked—my daughter is too mature for a 10-year-old, but I’m also a very protective mother so I think it’s going to take me a long time to be ready to leave her alone at home.” It will take time. Even though it’s Christmas! I’m not Mrs. McCallister,” he quipped, referring to the ‘Home Alone’ movies.
However, the mother noted that she is helping her daughter improve her level of independence. “I helped her independence last month by allowing her to go to a school camp retreat where I couldn’t talk to her for a week. It was very difficult for me because I couldn’t contact her for the first time after she was born. Although he had a great time with his teammates and I’m pretty sure he didn’t miss me at all!” she said.
Ariane also told Bored Panda how having a baby is a “huge adjustment” for new parents. “It is difficult to strike the right balance between work, life and family. I’m always working hard on some creative project and Lily can get very angry if I don’t get my full attention! One of the biggest challenges is adjusting your perspective and always putting the child first but making self-care a second priority. I don’t know if any parent gets it right or not, but the main thing is to try!
The gist of the grandma’s argument using Reddit is that she “isn’t a daycare” and shouldn’t be doing anything for free because she “has a life of her own.” In his original post, redditor wrote that he asked his daughter For $15 an hour, however, he later edited his story to make it $12 an hour., Some Redditors thought Grandma did this to make herself appear less guilty.
Personally, I think it’s a very cold and calculative way to go through life, but then again, I might be too mad and giddy for a panda myself.
I think money should only be entered in purely symbolic terms in situations like this. Perhaps Grandma could have asked for a nutritious cup of tea and homemade food as a reward. Or she could combine her job with spending time with her only grandson. Then again, many Internet users would probably say that being with your grandchildren and helping your daughter are quite the rewards.
While many babysitters often don’t get paid enough and are undervalued by parents, some professionals stand to make a considerable amount of money. For example, a professional nanny i found out earlier That he used to get 700 dollars per week in addition to various allowances. However, she stressed to Bore Panda the fact that many babysitters have to deal with overly demanding parents for little pay.
“I think they [the parents] Trust that it is their child to be raised the way they want (to an extent I agree) and that all rules should be followed blindly. But some nannies (like me) have been in this field for many years and can offer valuable insight and advice, which they are rarely prepared to take because parenting is so personal,” explained the nanny that many Parents are not ready to listen to anything. Consult a professional as well. They think they always know best.
“That’s why I believe they often don’t want to offer substantial compensation: it’s personal. They’re (most likely, in my experience) paying you under the table, they’re a Trying to get a good deal, and they love their baby. They don’t think taking care of their ‘precious angel’ is a chore; it’s a treat. They like to be at home with their baby all day so I guess they feel like it’s not a real job. It’s something you get to do, and they’re crazy they have to pay someone to do it,” she told Bored Panda. said.
“They love their child, they will do anything for their child. There’s a connection that no one else can ever have, and they can’t imagine not having that connection, so they call it quits.” Treat it like it’s not a job, it’s a privilege. ‘You’re so lucky to have the opportunity to be at home with my baby while I go to work’ mentality, when in fact we’re in our hands to take care of you. Families leave; we don’t want to leave our families at work in the morning as much as you do, but that’s our job.”
Most Reddit users were unanimous: Grandma was clearly wrong. here’s what they have to say