A mother who recently experienced the heartbreaking stillbirth of her daughter was denied paid family leave by her employer.
Cassidy Crowe, who works in New York, learned she was eligible for paid family leave after she became pregnant with her daughter Olivia, where she would receive a percentage of her wages.
But, unfortunately, at the thirty-sixth week of pregnancy, Crowe at the doctor’s office learned that her girl did not have a heartbeat, and therefore she had to give birth to a stillbirth.
“It was literally the most horrible moment of my life,” she said heartbreakingly. TODAY.
And when she returned from her daughter’s funeral, the mother turned to her workplace to arrange a paid vacation, which she was told was impossible. Although Crowe had a traumatic experience, she was told that family leave was for those involved with their children.
Crowe was understandably depressed…
“A mother buries her child, who she carries for nine months – when they go through all the physical aspects of birth and go through all the terrible postpartum symptoms that any other woman goes through – and now you are telling me this because my child is not alive I have no right for benefits?” she said, according to the news portal.
“It was an emotional slap in the face. It should be changed to “postpartum leave” because it would cover anyone who has a baby. If you’re having a baby, whether it’s a cesarean or vaginal, you should be getting paid family leave because your body is going through trauma,” she continued.
Crowe said that “Frankly, returning women to work earlier than six weeks is a medical concern.”
Employers may choose to do so, but if they do not, no rights are infringed. It all depends on the state and the employer. However, employers must provide up to twelve weeks of leave for family leave. Catch? They don’t have to pay their workers, they just have to keep the work for them.
However, some states are much more generous, giving their new parents more than twelve weeks of vacation time. And employers can also choose whether they pay a percentage of their employees’ wages.
Now, while employers may be more grateful than the law requires, only a handful of states fifty, actually provide paid leave.
These states include; California, New Jersey, New York, D.C., Connecticut, Washington, Rhode Island and Massachusetts, according to Bipartisan political center.
Crowe had to endure the most difficult moments of her life, feeling as if New York, the city she called home, did not accept that her child was a real being.
“It really added to my grief and depression and really made me feel like New York State wouldn’t recognize that my baby was real,” she said. TODAY.
Although the grieving mother received bereavement leave and leave from her employers, who she said supported her, it was not enough.
But Crow is not the only grieving mother advocating for better rights for women who have stillbirths…
Because Elizabeth O’Donnell, who lived in Washington DC, had a stillborn baby in 2020 and the public school she worked at denied her paid family leave.
Mom, who is now co-director of communications at PUSH for enhanced pregnancy, shared how upset she was Instagram: “December 1, 2020 at 5:30 am I gave birth to my daughter Aliya Deniz. I have been a public school teacher in the District of Columbia for 7 years. D.C. government policy denies me paid family leave (8 weeks postpartum recovery) because I can’t provide my daughter’s birth certificate.”
“Unfortunately, I can provide her with the documents for cremation, but this will not affect their decision.
“We, as a society, often keep these matters under wraps. First, because it is incredibly traumatic for the woman who has experienced it. Second, because it makes others feel uncomfortable,” she continued.
“I gave birth to my daughter naturally around 5:30 AM December 1, 2020 after 48 hours of labor. Then I needed an operation, during which I lost almost a liter and a half of blood. I had an epidural which aggravated the scar tissue from a previous injury and as a result I am now in constant pain every day until it heals. My daughter, living or dying, should not determine if I get 8 weeks of paid family leave to HEAL MY BODY after giving birth,” said the mom, whose post went viral.
Washington DC now has a law that offers 10 days of bereavement leave. all mother.
It’s more important to put your mental health first, and empowering women like O’Donnell and Crowe ensures they can be a voice for those in need, allowing for the necessary changes so others don’t have to go through this is. the things they went through.