Woman asks for a day off hours before her shift starts to celebrate son’s first birthday and throws a tantrum after co-worker refuses to cover for her

In most cases, the problems are as complex as the people themselves. Sometimes, however, it can be a simple, well-defined test. Like this little story from the Internet.

We have a situation where two retailers and a manager are in conflict with each other over a last minute scheduling issue. Simple enough.

But what makes this story poignant is the sheer right that some people have in this situation. And no matter how many times it happens, we can’t help but wonder that it’s a thing.

More information: Reddit

Jobs in retail are often bad enough that a colleague doesn’t blame you for not being able to attend your son’s birthday party at the last minute.

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OP, Ooriginal POster, also known as u/MayITakeYourGoat on Reddit, reached out to the Am I The A-Hole community to resolve a problem he had with some of his colleagues.

OP works in retail. One morning, he received a text message from his manager asking (well, more like an order) to come and replace another employee, Brenda. It turns out that Brenda’s son turned 1 that day and she couldn’t come to work.

And that’s exactly what happened in this Redditor’s story, asking the AITA community for some point of view.

Woman asks for a day off hours before her shift starts to celebrate son's first birthday and throws a tantrum after co-worker refuses to cover for her

Woman asks for a day off hours before her shift starts to celebrate son's first birthday and throws a tantrum after co-worker refuses to cover for her

Woman asks for a day off hours before her shift starts to celebrate son's first birthday and throws a tantrum after co-worker refuses to cover for her

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Her shift started at 2:00 pm and the OP got the message around 10:00 am but didn’t read it until 12:00 pm. Similarly, the OP already had plans, so this was No with his hand.

However, the manager didn’t like it and started showing some attitude. He said that the OP is heartless and terrible (let’s start with strong words) because Brenda missed her son’s first birthday.

But then the OP asked the key question here: Why didn’t Brenda plan this ahead of time? Not that birthdays fall on different dates each year. The manager did a classic maneuver by saying that they would talk as soon as the OP was at work.

The OP also provided an update saying that Brenda herself tried to text him but he just blocked her.

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Well, of course, Brenda started writing. I have no idea how she got his number, but she did. She also said something terrible about OP. After a brief argument, he blocked her (and her husband, since she also used his phone).

The only conclusion this led OP to was that he needed to find a new job, so he started applying.

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The guys from Am I The A-Hole? The community was also surprised by this kind of entitlement and arrogance on the part of Brenda and the manager respectively.

While the only thing people could say against the OP is that he could have used more professional language, what the OP actually said was still pretty tame compared to what the other two said. Also, this is a retail job where professionalism is often thrown out the window.

All the people on the net were supportive of the OP, no matter how surprised he was at how legitimate and ignorant Brenda was.

Everyone agreed that the OP is right here. A birthday is something that people can plan ahead of time, so it’s not a reason for Brenda or the manager to be angry.

Some shared their stories about retail, vowing never to work there again because of situations like this. Others advised the OP not to be influenced by the manager and stand his ground, as retail managers are often at the worst end of the spectrum when it comes to management.

The OP himself also provided some more context in the comments. For example, what does his manager look like voicing his ideas about abortion and birth control – anything but professional, so who can accuse the OP of being unprofessional? Needless to say, the work environment is toxic.

In a couple of other comments, he rants about how Brenda couldn’t have planned this ahead of time. It’s the same with Christmas – the date doesn’t change, so plan ahead! He explained that his girlfriend’s daughter actually has 4 different Christmases, all carefully planned.

Whatever the case, people thought OP was far from being a jerk. The post received a modest 5,300 votes, nearly 500 comments, and one Reddit award. But that’s over 5000 people backing the OP, so it’s definitely something.

You can check post in context here, or take a look at our other articles that decide who is an asshole here and who is not. But don’t forget to let us know your thoughts in the comments section below!

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